Patient Love

What comes to mind when you think of the word LOVE?

A warm, fuzzy feeling?

The color red?

The shape of a heart?

Your family?

Your significant other?


It’s a word that gets thrown around a lot. It gets thrown around with gifts. It gets thrown around with words. It gets thrown around with romance. And with this past Tuesday being Valentine’s Day, it was flying out of the park.


I’m not saying those things can’t show love, but they certainly don’t define it. What if you defined love not by the things you can touch, but by the things you can’t?

I think a certain aspect of love tends to get overlooked – an aspect I think speaks volumes about the love you have for someone:

PATIENCE. “Love is patient..” {1 Corinthians 13:4}

Patience probably isn’t the first word that pops into your head when you think of defining love. But it certainly has a lot to do with the way love is manifested.

If you’re not willing to be patient, your love will be temporary and situational – without any enduring effect. You want a love that transforms.

I’ve definitely seen how having patience can produce some pretty transformative results. The patience it takes for me to straighten my curly Qs is quite hefty, but it yields an unbelievable outcome.

The patience doesn’t just start when I’m in the process of straightening though, but well before it. Let’s just say that to complete this task effectively, plans have to be made ahead of time.

The steps are as follows:

 Step 1 – take a shower

Step 2 – blow dry hair (a.k.a. activate the lion’s mane)

Step 3 – stare into the mirror at the beast and shake head


Step 4 – Take a minute to cool down from the heat of the dryer and my crazy amount of hair

Step 5 – Attempt to section off hair and straighten (repeat a million times)

Step 6 – Take several water breaks and/or go stand in front of a fan

So, there you go. Six steps that approximately take 2 hours to complete. Ever wonder why I don’t straighten my hair more often?

I learn a lot of patience when it comes to straightening my hair. But I remind myself while I’m absorbed in the process what will ultimately come of it: something lovely.

Have you ever thought about how God manifests his love by His patience?

He was patient in sending Jesus at the right time to die on the cross for our sins.

He was patient in waiting for me to turn from my sin and toward Jesus for my salvation.

And He is patient with everyone, so that all may receive eternal life through Jesus.

“The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.”

{2 Peter 3:9}

God’s patient love has transformed me from the inside out.

If you want to display genuine love toward someone, start by being patient with them. But what does patient love look like?

It looks like not having to get the last word in (James 1:19), it looks like taming your tongue (James 3:1-12), it looks like not complaining or losing your temper (James 1:20), it looks like loving someone even when it’s not reciprocated (Romans 5:8), it looks like dying to your own desires (Galatians 5:24) in order to meet the needs of others, and it looks like loving someone despite their mistakes.

Patience is a fruit of the Spirit {Galatians 5:22-23}, so it’s produced by the work of the Spirit in your heart. If you’re a Christian, ask Him to produce it in you so you can bear it. If you’re unsure if you have truly accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, turn from your sins (Acts 3:19-21) and trust in what Jesus has accomplished for you on the cross. He’s patiently waiting to gift you with His Spirit.

Curly Cue #5: A patient love transforms your heart and the lives of those around you.

Have you been loving people with patience?


Brenna, the girl with curly hair ❤


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  1. Oh boy … I am literally tearing up. This is beautiful. And a reminder for all of us. This is perfect timing, Brenna. Not only for Valentine’s Day, but for our friends (you know who they are) who are struggling. Thank you for sharing this. Love you!


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